What is the first thing that comes to your mind, when you think about unfinished business? Your first thought may focus on surface stuff like, getting round to painting your home or paying that outstanding bill......
What happens though, if we look beneath all that surface stuff? We may find ourselves looking at missed opportunities, hopes, desires and dreams.
As a therapist, this blog makes reference, to the part of the SELF, that may in some way feel unfulfilled. At SW11 counselling, I have seen a myriad of clients, some of whom talk about their needs and wants, but don't feel the courage to pursue them. Other clients, however, are less clear about what they are searching for, but know they need to do something to make themselves feel less empty.
This idea of unfinished business may become more apparent to us when for example, we compare ourselves against other people's experiences; or when our life is predominately about work. James Howells poignant quote describes this beautifully and simply:
"All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy":
Proverbs in English, Italian, French and Spanish (1659).
The SELF is a very important part of us and needs to be treated with care. To gage a clearer sense of SELF, we need to be able to look beneath the surface stuff and source those elements which work toward empowerment/actualisation. As a therapist I have seen first hand, that counselling has been extremely beneficial in helping individuals explore their notions about unfinished business.
What comes up for you? Your thoughts are welcome.